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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

14.06.2025 05:53

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

Why has my ex moved on so fast after years of being together with me?

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

By taking turns talking.

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.

Since the rise of feminism, the dating market has shifted to the disadvantage of men and that is causing this incel phenomenon. Why do women not understand how lonely the majority of men are?

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.